Lady of Purity and Lady of Security

I’m choosing to address the next two chapters in my book in the same blog. Being a Lady of Purity and Lady of Security go hand in hand in my opinion and lead to one another.

We all know what the word purity means but I decided to look it up anyway. Here is the definition online from dictionary.com:

Purity-
1. The condition or quality of being pure; freedom from anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes, etc
2. Freedom of any admixture or modifying addiction
3. Ceremonial or ritual cleanness
4. Freedom from guilt or evil; innocence
5. Physical chastity; virginity
6. Freedom from foreign or inappropriate elements; careful correctness
7. The chroma, saturation, or degree of freedom of white of a given color
8. Cleanness or spotlessness, as of garments

The word that jumped out at me in all the multitudes of definitions was the word freedom. We all know that being a Lady of Purity would mostly relate to the 5th definition. But in reading all the others; I found it interesting that purity could mean freedom of many things. In today’s world being a Lady of Purity is seen as a confinement, a limitation in life; when in fact it’s the direct opposite—it’s freedom. I encourage you to think about how being a Lady (or man) of Purity could be a freedom and provide freedom of so many negative things, thoughts, and feelings in our lives. Really think about it!

1 Corinthians 10:13 says, “No temptation has seized you expect what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”

Leading into being a Lady of Security, I think everyone would agree that some girls and women think that getting the guys and perhaps not being a lady of purity will get them the acceptance and love they crave. But as the author of Lady in Waiting asks, “Why do women tend to “go after the guys”? Why do women experience difficulty being still and waiting for the man to initiate and develop the relationship? You find the answer in one word: insecurity. An insecure woman has her world centered on something (marriage) or someone (Mr. Right) that can be lost or taken away. Insecurity keeps a woman from experiencing consistent joy even within a relationship because a man cannot provide security, only God can.”

When a woman wrote into an advice column and asked “What can I do to get him to notice me?” This was the advice given:

“My answer is ‘nothing.’ That is, nothing toward the man.

Don’t call him. Don’t write a little note with a smiley face or a flower or a fish under the signature or put it in his campus mailbox. Don’t slide up to him in the hall and gasp, ‘I’ve just got to talk to you!’ Don’t look woebegone, don’t ignore him, don’t pursue him, don’t do him favors, don’t talk about him to a nine carefully selected listeners.

There is one thing you can do: turn the whole business over to God. If he’s the man God has for you, ‘No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly’ (Ps. 84:11). Direct your energies to obedience, not to nailing the man. God has His own methods of getting the two of you together. He doesn’t need any help or advice from you.”

This is not saying to never do nice things for a man, EVER! It’s simply warning you to check your motives. A woman with selfish motivation mentally plots the next maneuver to capture the attention of the man of her dreams. As the author calls it, do a little “heart flossing” asking the Lord to remove any impure motives before you act. Manipulation and maneuvering can be deadly. If you maneuver to get a man, you will have to maneuver to keep him. So next time you find yourself bending over backwards to do something nice for a guy (or girl for my male readers), ask yourself what your motives are. Would you do the same thing for a friend who you’re not “going after?” Check yo self! That is “Motive Check” yo self!

Trust in the lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord trust in him and he will do this; he will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. – Psalm 37: 4-7

To be a Lady of Security and Lady of Purity is to experience all the joy God provides for you and trusting in him TO provide that Joy and love. My prayer for you (and myself) is that you be secure in his words and your knowledge of his teaching, that he will provide the desires of your heart.